Does love fade because of karma / An AI creation

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Explore why love fades through the lens of Buddhist teachings and modern psychology. Understand the roles of karma, trust, emotional value, and mindfulness in sustaining meaningful relationships.Love is one of the most beautiful yet sometimes painful experiences in life. It brings joy, fulfillment, and sometimes also suffering. Often, love fades over time. While some say, “We have changed,” Buddhist philosophy teaches that these changes are the results of internal karmic consequences, not merely external circumstances.


🪷 Past Karma and the Origin of Love

According to Buddhism, all relationships—romantic, friendly, familial, or even antagonistic—arise from past karma. Actions, thoughts, and intentions from previous lives influence the connections we form today.
Thus, love’s beginning and its fading are often guided by karmic patterns. These karmic relationships are impermanent, part of the universal truths of suffering (dukkha) and impermanence (anicca).

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🌼 Dishonesty, Misconduct, and Loss of Trust

Maintaining love requires honesty and trust. When these break down, love becomes vulnerable. From a Buddhist perspective, love based on dishonesty, mistrust, or craving is impermanent and transient.

Scientific studies also confirm this: infidelity, dishonesty, and deception are major causes of relationship breakdown (Amato & Previti, 2003; van Zyl, 2021).

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🩷 Decline in Mental Value

Relationships persist because of the value and respect we mentally assign to them. When this value diminishes, so does love. Appreciation may fade due to changes in the mind—a natural consequence of impermanence.

Buddhism emphasizes cultivating a mind of clarity, compassion, and mindfulness to preserve love. Similarly, psychological research shows that criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling predict relationship failure (Gottman, 1992)

💠 Psychological Perspective

Modern research identifies several reasons why love ends:

·         Communication breakdown

·         Loss of trust and honesty

·         Diverging life goals and values

·         Lack of effort or commitment

·         External pressures: financial, family, or work-related stress

Hawkins et al. (2012) note that “growing apart” and “inability to communicate” are highly endorsed reasons for breakups.
Aron et al. (2000) highlight that engaging in shared, novel activities strengthens intimacy and satisfaction.

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🪶 Conclusion

Love fades due to karma, misconduct, mistrust, and diminishing appreciation. According to Buddhism, this aligns with the truths of suffering (dukkha) and impermanence (anicca).

The path forward lies in cultivating wisdom, purifying the mind, and living with compassion and loving-kindness.

Buddhism says that karma cannot be blamed for all events. Love is often lost due to karma, bad behavior, distrust, and lack of appreciation. But according to the Buddhist view, this is part of the truths of “suffering” and “impermanence.” Love cannot be maintained forever, and there are several virtues that must be cultivated in the mind to preserve love for a long time.


👉 Purifying the mind,

👉 Developing compassion and kindness,

👉 Directness in love, not hiding facts

👉 Trust and honesty

👉 Obedience, listening well

👉 Good understanding of others

👉 Not surpassing others

👉 Truthfulness and avoiding arguments with others

👉 Not provoking others to win arguments

👉 Not causing mental anguish or mental distress to others

👉 Even the loss of love is not a “loss” — it is a path of Dharma that ennobles the mind. 🌿

As the Buddha said:

“Through the cessation of craving, suffering ceases.”

Losing love is thus not just a loss—it is an opportunity for spiritual growth. When the mind is clear and filled with metta (loving-kindness) and karuna (compassion), love reaches its highest, unlimited potential.


📚 References

·         Amato, P. R., & Previti, D. (2003). People's reasons for divorcing. Journal of Marriage and Family, 65(3), 602–615.

·         Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., McKenna, C., & Heyman, R. E. (2000). Couples' shared participation in novel activities. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(2), 273–284.

·         Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63(2), 221–233.

·         Hawkins, D. N., Willoughby, B. J., & Doherty, W. J. (2012). Reasons for divorce and recollections of premarital intervention. Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, 53(5), 323–343.

·         Le, B., Dove, N. L., Agnew, C. R., Korn, M. S., & Mutso, A. A. (2010). Predicting nonmarital romantic relationship dissolution. Journal of Family Psychology, 24(5), 507–522.

·         Psychology Today. The Top 4 Reasons Couples Break Up – Expert analyses by Jeffrey Bernstein et al.

van Zyl, C. J. J. (2021). Predicting infidelity from precise personality sub-traits. Personality and Individual Differences